Biblical Counseling

  • Eyes that see? Eyes that see?

    Eyes that see?

Eyes that see?

This may seem like a cryptic verse innocuously tucked in the book of Proverbs but I hope it gets your attention from this point forth:

“The hearing ear and the seeing eye, the Lord has made both of them (Pr 20:12, NASB).

Have you ever been with someone as they blurted out, Quick, look at that! Then they frenetically point toward the that? What, I don’t see it?”

Never mind, you missed it? Missed what? I didn’t see it!

The hearing ear and the seeing eye, the Lord has made them both. The Apostle Paul tells us that we are to walk by faith and not by sight (2 Cor 5:7) because the things that are seen are temporal while the things that are unseen are eternal (2 Cor 4:18). Faith, hope, love—all things unseen, yet very distinct. Huh? How are we to see things that are unseen? Better yet, how is that Jesus could “see” the faith of the people who brought a paralytic to Him (Matt 9:2)? And throughout the gospels, we are continually reminded that Jesus was looking to find faith. Will He see it in us?

“The hearing ear and the seeing eye, the Lord has made them both (Pr 20:12, NASB).

Seeing is super important. Hearing is also. However, do we know how to see with spiritual eyes and is our hearing accustomed to hear from the Lord?

There is a process that I would like to share that can give some insight toward how this happens biblically.

Step one: Seeing it.

Step two: Saying it.

Step three: Savoring it.

Want to see this path as traced through in the Scriptures?!

Your senses without a biblical filter will deceive you. The Bible says that if we are merely hearers of the Word […]

  • Triumph and Disaster Triumph and Disaster

    Triumph and Disaster

Triumph and Disaster

© by Todd A. Sinelli

Triumph & Disaster

Perspective. Wouldn’t it be great to have the right perspective on things? Many times in life we are challenged to develop a new perspective or to change our perspective. A new vantage point can open our mind’s eye and allow us to see things differently.

I was captivated the other day as I read through Rudyard Kiplings poem entitled “If.” He writes:

If you can dream–and not make dreams your master;
If you can think–and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

How many times have we met “Mr. Triumph”? Or can you think of the last time you were introduced to “Mr. Disaster”? How do we know which is which? Sometimes a triumph turns into a disaster and a disaster into a triump. Life seems to be full of high highs and low lows; however, sooner or later we realize that there is something to be learned from all situations.

I’ll confess that I am intrigued by TV shows like “Joe Millionaire.” This showed aired over five years ago and featured a 24 year-old cowboy named David Smith who earns about $11,000 a year. The women on the show believe that he is worth $50 million. The show will culminate with David selecting one girl to be with. However, the catch is that he will then tell her that he is not what she thinks he is. He is a simple cowboy that earns ~$11k a […]

  • Why Read? Why Read?

    Why Read?

Why Read?

© by Todd A. Sinelli

C.S. Lewis said, “We read to know that we are not alone.” This was a saying he would frequently repeat throughout the movie “Shadowlands.” We read to know that we are not alone.

Someone asked me the other day why I read. My first reaction was to give some fancy shmancy answer about it stimulating my mind or how it activates different cognitive recesses within my head. Then I thought about it some more and said, “I read to know that I am not alone.”

I also read to discover. Thomas Alva Edison said, “If we did all the things we were capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.” Wise words from a wise man. Books are a portal to the unknown. If I venture into the biography section of a bookstore, I can learn about a man that had a puppet by the name of “Steamboat Willie” and an idea that he could appeal to the child in all of us. People laughed at him and he went broke five times attempting to realize his dream. However, this man persevered and simply kept on moving forward even when the future looked bleak. With his perseverance and belief that life’s greatest moments are yet to come he clung tightly to his dream. This dream became a reality and we have Disneyworld and the Magic Kingdom because of this man. His name was Walt Disney.

It’s been said that the real voyage of discovery consists not in seeing new land, but in seeing the same land with new eyes. Some say, it is sad that Walt Disney died before he got to see how large his dream became. Quite the contrary, it was […]

  • Smooth Sails Do Not Make Skillful Sailors Smooth Sails Do Not Make Skillful Sailors

    Smooth Sails Do Not Make Skillful Sailors

Smooth Sails Do Not Make Skillful Sailors

© by Todd A. Sinelli

There is an African proverb that says, “Smooth sails do not make skillful sailors.” I’ve been reflecting on this quite a bit lately because any person that has lived long enough, knows that life can bring many challenges. These challenges can come personally, professionally and spiritually. How we handle those challenges seems to be of utmost importance.

The Bible says, “the conclusion of a matter is better than the beginning” (Eccl 7:8). When we are in a trial, we really don’t know how long it will last or how intense it may become. Although we do know that trials are a part of life and God promised us that “all who want to live godly in Christ Jesus will be persecuted” (2 Tim 3:12). Trials are part of being a Christian.

It is only after a trial visits us that we can take a deep sigh and say, “Thank You Lord.” Allow me to give some context and to explain the reason for my sincere gratitude as I reflect and consider. Without sharing details about the specific trials, the words from the Bible have gotten me through this season of seemingly endless difficulties, tests, and tribulations. Let me share a few passages to show what I mean.

Ecclesiastes 7:14 states, “In the day of prosperity, be happy, but in the day of adversity consider—God has made the one as well as the other so that man will not discover anything that will be after him.” These are the words from King Solomon and he is sharing with us that God ordains both kinds of days and withholds knowledge of the future. This theme is again repeated by Jesus in Matthew chapter 6 where Jesus […]

  • Chi Non Fa, Non Falla Chi Non Fa, Non Falla

    Chi Non Fa, Non Falla

Chi Non Fa, Non Falla

© by Todd A. Sinelli

Chi non fa, non falla. This is an Italian saying which means “he who does nothing, does not fail.”

Have you ever noticed that there are some people who are constantly trying new things, discussing new ideas, and taking new adventures while there are other people that never leave the comfort and security of their day to day routine? One group relishes dreams, thoughts, and ideas while looking for opportunities to live life and live it to the fullest. The other group simply clings to that which is familiar praying that things will never change.

Chi non fa, non falla. Those who do nothing make no mistakes. Bill Cosby was once asked what the secret to success was. He said he didn’t know. But he said he knew the secret to failure. “The secret to failure was trying to please all the people all of the time.” I agree with Dr. Cosby. You cannot please all the people all of the time.

Nike developed a whole empire with an advertising campaign encouraging people to “Just do it.” I have the privilege and opportunity to meet people from all walks of life: rich, poor, young, old, black, white, . . . and I have found that many people replacing talking with doing. In other words, they let their words replace their actions. However, it is such a joy and delight to meet people that have done something. What I mean by that is when I encounter people that have just spent a month traveling Europe, or auditioned for their first play, or left their job to pursue something more fulfilling, I really get excited.

“Security is mostly a superstition. Life is either a daring adventure, […]

  • To Whom Shall We Go? To Whom Shall We Go?

    To Whom Shall We Go?

To Whom Shall We Go?

by Todd A. Sinelli

“To whom shall we go?”

The Apostle Peter asked this question rhetorically almost 2000 years ago. Yet, this question is still being asked frequently, sincerely, and desperately by men and women who are hoping to find answers to many of life’s riddling questions.

“To whom shall we go?”

Where and to whom shall we go for answers? Who can help us in times of despair? How can we help those who have been sexually abused? What do you say to a suicidal person? What should your response be to losing a child, financial misfortune, or an adulterous wife?

“To whom shall we go?”

This article will directly answer the aforementioned question and strongly encourage the regenerate Christians to follow the Scriptures and to travel upon the narrow and straight road that leads to life everlasting and to avoid the broad and open path that leads to destruction.

Myth vs. Truth

Life presents us with many choices. Cable TV now offers over 100 channels. If you would like a beverage, you can purchase a Coca Cola with a lemon twist, vanilla or cherry flavored Coke, Diet Coke, Coke Light, Caffeine free Diet Coke, and the list goes on and on. Choices can be overwhelming in many areas; however, there are more important questions to answer other than which cable show to watch or what beverage we should drink.

Where do we turn to receive answers for life’s eternal questions like: Why am I here? For what purpose was I created? What happens when I die? The bible gives us clarity of thinking and provides a “lamp to our feet and a light to our path.” Without the light of God’s Word shining into our lives, we literally will walk in […]

  • Pornography: Healthy or Hurtful for Relationships? Pornography: Healthy or Hurtful for Relationships?

    Pornography: Healthy or Hurtful for Relationships?

Pornography: Healthy or Hurtful for Relationships?

© by Todd A. Sinelli

What if someone came up to you and said they had a problem and wanted some help?

What if you agreed to help that person?

And what if they told you that the problem they had was with pornography? They confessed that they were spending hours on line viewing pornagrpahy. They had purchased pornographic books and movies and they were even considering swinger parties and were fascinated with the idea of wife swapping. Maybe they were not considering the idea of swinger parties but they are out of control in their desire for pornographic material. They informed you that what started out as just looking at Playboy magazines has escalated into a pervasive habit that has seemingly taken them captive to thinking about nothing but women as sex objects.

Would you revoke your response to help them? Would you be disgusted by this confession? Maybe you would wish that whatever pain, angst, or problems they were having were deserved because of this sinful behavior.

Maybe the person is “just” into viewing porn online or “just” has a few x-rated videos. Is this acceptable behavior? More importantly can you offer this person help from the Scriptures? 2 Timothy 3:16 states that “all Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness.” Is this true? Should we turn to Scripture first? What passages in the Bible would you reference? Would you even label the behavior of looking at pornographic material as sin? Or would you argue that this behavior is natural?

If you are not a born again Christian, this article will probably not make sense to you. The things I am about to discuss are spiritual in nature. […]